Hello all. It's been awhile... Again.
We've had a pretty eventful and somber holiday season in my house. Just after Thanksgiving I found out I was pregnant. I had the same terrible morning sickness as with my first pregnancy ( I lost nine pounds and w Betty I ended up losing around twenty) I think it was a girl but I was just starting to call it Abel/ Eloise. At just over nine weeks we learned in the emergency room that our baby had passed. That was the day the Mayans said the world was supposed to end. This past Sunday I had complications with the miscarriage and ended up having to spend the night in the hospital before having a procedure to stop the miscarriages natural progression and get it over with. It's all been less than pleasant as I'm sure you can imagine but I know there was a very good reason that our baby was called back and I'm still grateful for her and for my pregnancy. I would love to have many more children but it's all in Gods timing, of course and the great news I take away from this experience is that I am able to have more children. I would also love to adopt and we, as a family, are currently exploring that as an option. We're trying to find a home to buy closer to my husband's work and it's fun to imagine all of the possibilities. This past month in particular has been quite emotional. Just after the miscarriage we also had the flu and i felt really isolated and alone. I kept thinking of our old home and our old community and I missed it so much. But when I had to go back to the hospital I was overwhelmed by the amount of support we had from loved ones and from some people we barely knew. So many people were praying for us and were available to us. We had more help than we knew what to do with and it was wonderful. Because of this experience I feel like we're part of a community for the first time since we moved here a year ago and I'm truly happy to be here. I would, of course, have rather not gone through it if I'd had my choice but I know God has a plan and I need to trust in that. I am grateful for all of those days and I would like to thank everyone for their support. God bless
Hi there. This is the first time I've stopped by your blog, and the first post I've read. I just want to tell you how very sorry I am for your loss. I also had a miscarriage, a few years ago--mine was at 8 weeks or so. That was my first pregnancy. I think I can say I know what you are going through. The most difficult part, for me, was I felt like there was no where I could really turn for support. The people at the hospital didn't address that emotional side of it in any way; I wish that women were given some resources from the ER when this happens, such as a list of support groups, websites--something. If you would ever like to talk more about this, please don't hesitate to email me: starsappearing@gmail.com. Prayers and well wishes your way!
ReplyDeleteHey Brenna! It's Cindy - Kylie's neighbor - the one that loves your blog and has missed it very much! I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. I too had a miscarriage (OK so many years ago but I'll never forget it). I had a beautiful little boy to keep me busy for those days after when I was sad or mad or both. I learned to thank God every day for allowing me the chance with him and low and behold He blessed me with another boy! I was 10 weeks along and my boy's are 4 years apart. It will happen - it just takes time and patience. Funny I'm writing this today as that beautiful little boy turns into a handsome 23 year old man and in 4 days my second son will be 19. You are in my thoughts and prayers - although I've never met you I think of you often and enjoy the pictures that your sister-in-laws post of Betty!
ReplyDeleteThank you both so much. I also really wish they at least had pamphlets to give out after a miscarriage. They have tons of things to hand out when you're pregnant but nobody really prepared me for what a Miscarriage would be like. I've been in pretty good spirits all along but then a commercial with a baby will come on I'll cry out of nowhere. I also learned to be grateful for every day. It wasn't until I suffered a miscarriage that I realized what a miracle my first pregnancy was. It's amazing things work out as often as they do and it's all because of his glory. Thank you so much for your happy thoughts. As much as I would never ever want anyone else to have a miscarriage I am thankful that other people can relate.
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